I decided to write a post about non traditional wedding dresses for women like me, who don’t dream about a fancy wedding with hundreds of guests, a never ending lunch or dinner with dozens of courses and, most of all, a multi-layered princely dress. Maybe we’re a few, but we do exist!
Years ago I read a book about famous weddings of the 19th century and I found out that Sophia Loren got married twice (with the same man). One wedding was celebrated by proxy, while she was in US and her husband in Italy, still married to his future ex wife (in Italy divorce wasn’t legal yet). The second wedding was celebrated years after, in Italy, and Sofia Loren wore a Dior mustard dress with a matching coat. The ceremony was simple then the couple and their few guests went to lunch. Paparazzis who passed by didn’t even pay attention because they didn’t realize that was a wedding reception. I must say that Loren wasn’t happy about that minimalist wedding. She dreamed about the fairy tale but it couldn’t happen. Despite all, I find her basic wedding so romantic.
Sometimes I wonder if women want to get married because of the dress and the party. The wedding industry is a huge business and I’m sure many women feel pressured into stick to traditions and have a classic, expensive ceremony. In Italy, many people borrow money to organize an over-the-top wedding that it’s not uncommon that they still make payments on it even when after divorcing. Isn’t it crazy?
I think super minimalist weddings are more romantic because to me, they’re all about love and not about appearance and display of wealth (which some people don’t even have).
Emily Ratajkowski married Sebastian Bear-McClard wearing a Zara pant suit with a black hat with a veil, which immediately made me think of Bianca Pérez-Mora Macias’ outfit to marry Mick Jagger, still considered one of the most iconic wedding outfits in history.
French model Gabrielle Caunesil (which is my girl crush at the moment) married Italian entrepreneur Riccardo Pozzoli few months ago in Malibu wearing a pretty simple dress with a vintage vibe. She looked so beautiful. Well, she always does.
While wedding dresses keep evolving, often turning into classy evening gowns (that is to say they don’t look like wedding dresses), choosing a not wedding related garment can be a great choice. You can even save a lot of money because wedding gowns are usually pretty expensive since there’s a lot of speculations about the happiest day of your life. Everything that has something to do with a wedding costs more, from hairdo and makeup to the bunch of flowers. You can spend all those money for something better and long lasting, in my opinion.
Princess Caroline of Monaco got married to her third husband wearing a Chanel ensemble she had already worn before. And it’s totally fine not to wear an expensive designer dress, even Carrie Bradshaw got married wearing a dress by no-one and SJP probably felt very comfortable in that no-one ensemble that she decided to design a minimalist wedding collection for a modern, non-traditional bride.
Choosing a dress you can wear in other occasions is becoming a popular choice and it’s not even a modern one. For centuries, women got married wearing their best dress, and they wore it again on the occasion of elegant events. Before Queen Victoria’s wedding to Prince Albert of Saxe-Coburg (in 1840) white wasn’t considered the ultimate in wedding colors. The Queen simply chose a color to her liking, setting a huge trend.
If I think about non-wedding dresses I would wear to get married, Giambattista Valli Spring/Summer 2009 collection always comes to my mind. I particularly love these two dresses.
If you don’t like white and you’re not into its misogynist meanings (chastity and purity in the 21st century, seriously?) you can wear beautiful and delicate hues. I know a woman that got married wearing her favorite color, orange.
These are some beautiful non-wedding dresses you can wear to get married and in other occasions. Why keep a beautiful dress in the closet like a holy relic? Or, if you want to carefully store it, why invest a huge amount of money in something that will never be used again?
You have to see the back of this beautiful dress.
This one has a beautiful vintage charm that makes it so romantic. It’s one of my favorite picks.
Bridal but not too much 😉
This is so elegant and classy. I love the back.
A similar ensemble.
This is one of my favorite picks, I love the heart-shaped lace panels.
Pink, ruffled and romantic.
Minimalist and so chic.
A lacy short dress in a delicate hue of pink.
If you want to show some belly in a classy way this ensemble can be perfect. The top is so delicate and beautiful.
Very minimalist and affordable.
Keeping this dress in the closet could be considered a fashion crime.
Another favorite pick.
Asos has a good selection of dresses but the resolution of the photos is so poor that I decided not to publish any. But you can take a look at this cream one-shoulder fitted dress and at this light blue wrap dress with lace details.