Another Christmas has gone and many gifts have been given and received. All those gift guides, a must for many bloggers (but not for me, yet), probably don’t work so well. Or maybe… There should be more lists! In fact, according to some stats, a lot of people are not happy with their presents. So it’s time to talk about regifting.
Regifting has become a common and acceptable habit. Once seen as very offensive, it is now considered even ethical and ecological. But of course you should know its main rules to avoid embarrassments and misunderstandings.
Premise: receiving bad gifts is disappointing and annoying. Don’t be so, yourself. If you were given an ugly present, that made you think “WTF?!?” while you were graciously pretending to like it, don’t recycle it. In Italy we use this verb, after all regifting is about giving a second chance to something that otherwise we would have thrown away.
These are the main rules of regifting.
Always ask yourself if the gift is actually regiftable. A present can be wrong for you but perfect for somebody else. If you received a statement necklace but you only wear dainty jewelry (or you don’t wear jewelry, at all), give the necklace to someone who will probably appreciate it.
Regift only impersonal gifts. Food, wines and liquors are usually pretty regiftable, but mind allergies, intolerances and ethical choices. Accessories, household products, tools and electronic devices are (usually) impersonal and useful, so easily regiftable. If somebody wants to get rid of a Dyson hair dryer, here I am!
Never regift in the same social or family circle. Who gifted you with a wrong present shouldn’t know at all the person you’re going to regift with it. Socials can make things complicated, I know.
Be careful with touchy persons. Some people just don’t like the idea of receiving something that wasn’t bought for them, even if it’s a box of chocolates. Unless you’re 100% sure he/she won’t find out about the regift, don’t do it.
Always use a new wrapping paper/gift bag. If the gift is recycled, the package shouldn’t be! Be creative and wrap the gift with awesome paper and ribbons. And write a card, some people still appreciate it a lot.
Now, this is what I think about ugly gifts. They can be divided in two main categories: the wrong and the awful. If you are unlucky enough you can receive a present that is both.
Wrong gifts can be beautiful, but they’re not for you. A red lipstick given to a woman that only uses lip balm is not encouraging her to step out of her comfort zone, it’s just a wrong choice.
Bad gifts are ugly, useless, cheap. Since I’m the queen of Christmas/birthday disappointment, I perfectly know what I’m talking about. Ugly and itchy scarves, cheap make-up products, orrible clothes, dvds I still have to unwrap… Receiving such bad gifts by friends and close relatives is particularly disappointing. It shows laziness and insensibility.
A present should represent you and respect the taste of the receiver. “It’s the thought that counts” is such a misinterpreted concept! It means that a tiny, inexpensive gift bought or made with care and thoughtfulness can be more appreciated than an expensive but wrong gift. Since I love tin boxes, I’d prefer to receive a cute one instead of receiving a bottle of perfume I wouldn’t wear.
Saturday Night Live made a funny video about a peach candle that keep on being regifted over and over again. It’s really funny and quite relatable!
In conclusion, I truly believe in regifting, if it’s done with style. I also encourage it. When I gift somebody I always say “if you don’t like it, just give it to a person who will appreciate it”. But I really try to do my best, when I buy a present. Everybody should!